Ace Love's Advice Column

"No Day, But Today!"- Rent

2006-02-25T16:30:00.000-08:00

that guy said...
yerp....I'm back. I got more questions for the Ace. OK so since it's been a while I'd like to ask you how you've been? and whether anything's new? I been ok, been tryna use your advice, more I learn, more I realize, there's so much I don't know. My question is thus, ok I'm tryna peep this chic, and she's into another dude, she knows I like her, but she tends to not bring attention to it or address it, she does think I'm a "nice guy", and I heard this from a mutual friend, she also thinks I like her only cuz I'm tryna fuck her, if this was the case, once I head the whole nice guy thing I wouldn't have cared enough to give her a second thought, but now the situation is that I"m goin to miami for spring break wit my ppls, and she is goin wit another friend, and undoubtedly we gonna end up chillin, so a. how do I handle this? Do i ignore her, try to chill wit her, try to get at her?and b. Is it a legitamate reason that you like someone, simply for the fact that you don't know why you like them? That you haven't been able to quantify them. If you knew why you liked them then you wouldn't like them. Can you shed some light on this

Of coarse you can like someone just because you like them. You dont have to give a list or a reason why you like someone ya heart knows what it wants when it wants it, it does not have to give you a reason as to why, it works on its own accord. Obviously you cannot ignore her because thats just childish, you shouldnt try to get at her just chill on the friend tip, be an honest friend to her, she has it in her mind that you are only after one thing and she wont change her mind, women are annoyin like that, so just chill with her dont try to get at her, holla at someone else you're not beat for her so it doesnt matter you just like her so who knows maybe seeing you as just a guy over time will soften her up later for you to holla at her, but for now just chill lay the ground work wit her and hollla at other girls y0u might find someone else that you like and give a million reasons as to why...
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

"I hate you but I love, But I cant love you, cuz I hate you!"--Prince

2005-08-29T18:06:00.000-07:00

Anonymous said...
me and my exboyfriend had a really bad breakup and didnt talk to each other for awhile...but then he calls out of the blue askin to be friends again like it was no problem that he acted like a jerk towards me when we broke up. and i realized that i still have angry feelings toward him. so i just wanna know: is it a good idea to be friends with an ex that things didnt go well with?

If you still have angry feelings for him, then you are not ready to be friends. At most be friends via email. Dont meet up with him, dont hang out with him. If he didnt respect you when he was dating u he might not respect you as a friend. He may be feeling down and out and lonely and just wants you back. So dont fall back into a pity relationship. So move on, keep him as close as email allows it, which isnt close at all.
Dr. AceLove has spoken!

"Never underestimate the power of BODY LANGUAGE!" -Ursula, Sea Witch(The Little Mermaid)

2005-08-22T08:02:00.000-07:00

That guy said...
I'm willing to put in a little bit of time to "get to know" them, but the main thing I want to maintain is 1. my freedom 2. my ability to decline offers to chill without any reprocussions and also to be able to come and go as I please(probably too much to ask) but while you ponder this , I got another question if you in a bar chillin and u catch somebody's eye and they lookin at you with a stern face, what kinda expression are you supposed to give them to arouse interest. is that a signal? how can you tell? how does one interpret body language? please be as detailed and as specific as possible remember I'm only a man after all.

If someone is giving you a stern face it could be for many reasons. They could be tryin to place your face, u might look familiar. Or possibly they are wondering what the hell you are wearing or maybe u did something foolish. The expression that works no matter what is to smile, a smile does so much, if she smiles back then thats cool, if she turns her head and acts like u didnt just smile then keep walking but if she keeps looking back at you then go and talk to her. Body language is hard to interpret but we are all born with an innate sense for these things, the problem is that as humans we ignore our own senses and therefore at times get played out really bad. If you go over there and get rejected just keep walking, dont beat yourself up about it or let her see that you are hurt by it. Again like the ying yang twins say, "You're fine but I aint gonna sweat ya!" These are words to live by when u are in the dating game. Like i said earlier smiles are always good, if u go up to her and all the smile was was her being polite then you can make her a friend then holla at her friends, when u meet one girl there is a potential to meet a whole lot more as her friend then her man<---- wow was that slimey, getting a girl as a friend to holla at her friends, oh well its smart as hell so go with it.

Oh and about having your freedom and being able to turn a girl down when she wants to chill and all that, thats not gonna happen, it might with the right girl but like i said u gotta keep switchin, keepin friends with benefits too long leads to people catchin feelings. So keep on pimpin playa!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

"I'd rather be alone then be here unhappy"

2005-08-18T18:58:00.000-07:00

Anonymous said...
a couple of weeks ago my now ex-boyfriend told me he wanted to take a break after we went out for a month. What bothers me though is that he 1.)never talked to me about it 2.)he ignored my calls for a couple of days before he told me this 3.)he still wanted to be my b/f just without the title 4.) and he said he would still call but he hasnt...He said he just wanted to take this break to see if we can still work b/c we go to seperate school and we live 30 minutes from each other. I know that the right thing for me to do is just to leave him alone but...how long should i wait before i move on and date other ppl???

Okay, he wanted to downgrade your relationship to less than friends with benefits to wheneva he needs that particular itch to be scratched. Okay unless you both dont have a car, 30 minutes is nothing. I live in south jersey and to get to the mall, i gotta drive 45 minutes and thats for me to buy a coach bag, so that distance/seperate schools isnt a good enough reason. By the time you read this post, please start to date other people! Move on, he probably is talkin to other chics, so you need to expand your horizon, one month is nothing to think about, it aint worth it! The guy you are suppose to be with is out there so go find him, and i better not hear about you talkin to that jerk anymore!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

"If I could turn back the hands of time... I wouldnt spend it all with just you!"

2005-08-18T18:50:00.000-07:00

That Guy said...
OK I'm back, I used your advice and shit's pretty cool, I'm pullin some decent chics. But I got more questions, I'm an engineer and as such I don't have much time to devote towards girfriends, however, I would like to set myself up in that I wanna get a couple chics just to fuck, sorry about the vulgarity but I couldn't think of any other way to put it. I don't really wanna have a relationship cuz I can't devote time to it. So I wanna set myself up to be Bill Bellamy from "How to be a Player" only I'ma be more discrete about it. So I'm wondering should I holla at a bunch of chics and get a couple dates out the way and then jus string em along....or well can you tell me how exactly to accomplish my goals. hehe I want a monday chic a tuesday chic......all the way to friday.....Is this possible without having to put in too much time?

Havent heard from you in awhile, I'm happy to hear that you are pullin decent chicks. Okay so you dont have enough time to dedicate to an actual girlfriend. So you want friends with benefits with a couple chicks. Speaking from my past entanglements I juggled a couple of guys before and well if you dont have enough time for a serious relationship, you have even less time for multiple friends with benefits. At most two maybe three is all i would recommend and seeing that i was a bum psych student even then that was too much for me to handle. And someone always catches feelings, heck I have one that is still hangin around despite the fact that I have been with my boyfriend 3 years now, like my brother says, "he cant go nowhere without trippin over this ex". So I say two at most, chics catch feelings, so your gonna have to keep switchin them, u cant keep the same one too long. Its possible to get chics without spending alot of time, its impossible to keep them without spendin alot of time, so let me know what you are willing to put into it, and maybe i can help you out!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Dogs with big tails dont leave tracks!

2005-08-18T18:45:00.000-07:00

BigSam said...
Hey Ace,I have a question, I was talking to this girl and the convo went like this: Her - or some reason -- even though I donot know you--- I think of you as a ......... dog. then to diffuse it I said: what kind of dog, one of the big ugly ones or one of the cute ones u just want to pet all day she replied: just get that "vibe" from you..... One of the cute ones that you want to pet and hug and kiss all day until they piss on your favorite shirt. Then all you want to do is kick them and put them outside.So my question is this how do women get this vibe and what can I do to keep from giving it off. I think this has something to do with the confidence I have around women what is your opinion on this?

Well, you give off that vibe not because of confidence, rather from the "i dont give a fuck" attitude that you have that makes you able to say anything regardless of how it may be taken. But you are a Taurus so you are stubborn as hell so you are just gonna give off that vibe, just is how you is, so the best I can say is that if they cant handle you pissin on thier shirt dont leave the shirt out! Stick with women that can handle the fight that it will take to get you house broken, anything less then that you are dealing with someone too weak to handle it, so you are both wasting your time!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

"A snake charmer is a hard knock life"

2005-07-04T18:19:00.000-07:00

That Guy said...
ok it's me again, need your input on this one. I got a older brother, and chics just seem to be drawn to him, he's not really funny, and his charm is limited, also can you define charm for me. I mean I'm funny but what would make me charming an example would help. So back to the initial question, How is it that some dudes can just pull shit and others such as myself gotta work for it. Perhaps my age/inexperience shows?

Okay first thing is first, we all can think of someone that we have known, that we could not figure out why they were so attractive to the opposite sex, but they were. They just give off those platinum plus pheromones, that we just cannot explain. Charm is confidence, no stumbling over words, keepin it real without being too real. Charm is not being arrogant or shy. Yeah, I am going to go with that "Charm is confidence with the absence of arrogance!" Yo thats hot, man sometimes I gotta stop and reflect on how brilliant I am. Okay an example of charming, let me think, just be honest and nothing cheesy. Example: "Guy talking to a Girl, He smiles in a nice way not a stalker way and says that he cant believe he met a Girl like her when so many girls want someone that wont treat them right. But I can tell that you got a good head on your shoulders and I respect a strong woman that doesnt stand for games" Ya know how it is, compliments are your friends! So keep it real! Like I said, some people got them super-GQ phermones that can pull people in. So just "Use what ya got, to get what you want"
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

"Lets wait a while..."

2005-07-04T18:11:00.000-07:00

BigSam said...
Yo what's good Ace?What do you think about Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes getting engaged? I usually don't care about these things but right now I guess it seems to be the most important news in the world. Also how long should a couple wait to get married, I was thinking you should live with the person at least a year but I'm interested in hearing your opinion on this. Holla at ya boy.

Okay so what to do. For everyone it is different, I personally would want to live with someone cuz people are shady, you never know a person until you see all thier sides, not just the nice part that let you see on dates. Remember that if you aint ready to live with someone, then dont. If you aint ready to commit on that level then let it be known from jump. Though I think you should be very committed to eachother inorder to move in cuz ladies ya know the old saying, "Y buy the cow, when u can get the milk for free" This is still true to this day. So dont end up living with someone for ten years and never get married, thats just sad. So move in together knowing that you are only a step away from getting married/engaged.

"I'm late, I'm late, for a very important date" -white rabbit

2005-06-27T22:56:00.000-07:00

That Guy said...
Ok things have been going alright, but I got more questions. Ok imagine you're on the clock, you see this chick once in a while and in order to talk to her, you'd have to pry her away from something and boom. Tick tock tick tock, she's gotta get back to her thing, you're up, what do you say, what do you do, you've never talked to this chic before, you had to ask her to come to a specific spot away from her work to talk to you and now what? You start with a simple, Hi...............shit freeze frame, you've got a million things runnin through your mind and it all boils down to what could you possibly say at this time that would be concise, get you some sort of intro and set you up nice to pull away wit the #. Yea true story, just hasn't happened yet, thats why I consulted you first.

- Okay what to do... Even if you are not on the clock, you have to say something quick and conscise and not drag things out. So just jump in there, girls dont wanna hear a bull shit set up. Get to the point, we know u are trying to holla at us, u know u are trying to holla so just be upfront. Be polite, dont be all thug like, be intelligent. Say from jump you are at work, so she understands why you dont have forever to holla at her. Say a lil bit about yourself, where ur from and be funny and charming, the goal is to make her smile because your a cool person and not because ur some fool trying to holla. Oh be like, "I never met a girl that is relaxed and laid back, most females are too high maintenace, like you look like you take care of yourself but your not hung up on it." See you have just complemented her and put down all other chicks which makes her feel special and different. So after like what, maybe five minutes of small talk, go in for the kill ask her for her number, or well this is new age, so if she says no be like well can i get your screen name so its not as invasive but you still get to talk to her. So go for it! Be cool and relaxed and be honest!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Advice column

2005-06-27T20:09:00.000-07:00

Apparently it has come to my attention that people very much enjoy my advice column but they seem not to be posting questions. So if ya'll want me to spit my knowledge ya'll gotta ask Qs cuz otherwise I can just post random knowledge but that would just make me another, "Sam's thought of the day" blog.

So ask and ye shall recieve!

Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Walk away

2005-05-07T19:50:00.000-07:00

That guy said...
once again it's me...you know THAT GUY. I was wondering if you could tell me how I know whether to back off early in the game so that I don't get played. See if a bunch of niggas done approached her before me and she fed up i'm sure she'll give some sort of sign to tell me to bide my time. So can you clarify how I can tell. Also, you're good, thanks for the help. I'll dedicate my first jumpoff to you. heheh "woman put your lighter in the air one time for THE ACE"

Aight bet when to walk away
if the chick looks back at her girls and you see that her girls smile a cocky smile
if she sighs and shifts her body weight from one leg to the other
if she does a fake light laugh and tries to walk past you
if you have to repeatedly get her attention for her to stop walking and talk to you
if she constantly looks back and her friends and her friends giggle

Really its important to pay attention to body language, girls tell alot, shit people in general tell alot you just gotta know what to look for. Study people for a lil while and you will be able to protect yaself from the jump.
Dr. Ace Love has spoken.

Ying yang

2005-05-04T22:35:00.000-07:00

That guy said...
aiite then how bout this, this is a bit more indepth, now you know good lookin chics got egos right. That's what keeps them thinkin they all that, and while they think that, you jus playin the role of a customer/hopeful employee. Personally I think the secret is to destroy their facade of superiority right from the door, once you do that, you can talk to em like they regular and once u do that u in there. So my goal is to increase my batting average. I feel I can do this by doing what I just stated, I just don't know how to pull that off yet, I was hoping you could help me. Take your example, she's fly, do you honestly think she cares bout your Poli sci class, you might get played like a herb, i need something a bit more engaging, some sort of initial interaction to make a chic think damn, i'm good but he's right up there, not a hopeful employee but a future c.e.o of this ass

Yo, go by what my boys ying yang twins say, "You're fine but I aint gonna sweat ya!" There are two types of good looking chicks, The one that know she cute and a bunch of niggas done blown up her head, u dont wanna deal with this one anyway. And the other that is mad good looking but aint all egotistical about it. This chick u can approach with no big game to it, but understand that u might not be the first nigga that done approach her and she might be fed up so even if that was suppose to be ur true love u might just get played. And everyone gets played so be prepared for it and dont let it bother you. The most engaging thing u can do is be real and not over confident cuz arrogance is annoying.

Friends

2005-05-04T19:35:00.000-07:00

BigSam said...
Hey Ace,I have a question too. What is the best way to approach a female when she is with a group of her friends. Like you said before women never go anywhere by themselves and there's always that friend who either doesn't think you're good enough for the girl you're approaching (y does she feel the need to interject her opinion anyway?) or there's a bitter friend who is lonely and wants to keep the rest of her crew that way(that is so hateful for both the friends and the guy) so how can a young playa get around this. Also to maybe tweek your suggestion from before say that your friend, sister, cousin, or whatever is doing the poly-sci project and has asked you to help out. That way in case they are a poly sci major as well or know something about the subject you are not left trying to maintain a lie since most people have trouble lying. Plus u don't have to worry about it coming up later if you have intial success. P.S. Just for the record that the helping out, or doing a project does work, it's almost scary how well it works for real for real.

There is no best way, dont be intimidated. If u show weakness they will sniff it out, and chicks can communicate with thier eyes. Dont ignore the friends that will def. make it a rap for you. So just be confident and engage convo witht he friends cuz they cant be ignored. Understand that hater friends will always be there so keep that in mind, they gonna hate from the beginning to the end and all throughout!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Man-up

2005-05-01T21:22:00.000-07:00

That Guy said...
ok I got another one.... I really need your honest input on this one, whenever pretty ass girls walk by and they so pretty you just break your neck lookin at them, you want to go say something, but you have no idea what, you try saying hi but all they do is say hi back and keep it movin. How does one approach a situation like this? Also, Isn't it a bit forward to make an acquaintance like this and ask for a number? and who's this pat-rice? What's her take on this? All I know is there are so many girls that I wish I could get a chance to talk to, but they just keep it movin almost as if they know they got it like that and you don't.

Okay, so when you say Hi and all she says is hi back and keeps going she could be busy or just got done at being hollered at by some nigga that was annoying. Walk next to her and be like, "Excuse me, I am doing a survey for my Poli-sci class at, (insert college name here) -yeah it may be a lie but hey get ya foot in the door- in your humble opinion do you believe that Bush is running the county effiecently." Alright so the chick thinks ur smart that your about something and not someone foolish tryin to holla at her. Then as you are having this conversation try talkin to her and finding out if she is cool and worth talkin to and not just all looks. And there ya go, keep it going playa!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

The Chic's blog/Pick Up lines!

2005-04-27T14:55:00.000-07:00

So, a friend of my brother that referred to me as the chic that writes that blog, asked what are good pick up lines, cuz ya gotta open the door and its hard when there is an audience cuz lets face it ladies, we never go anywhere alone. So this will be a teaching lesson over various blogs of how to holla at chicks that you wanna talk to not just well ya know get to know biblically. Okay so first line that you can utilize.

Now if the chick is in some store/mall, do not go, "psst, ay yo shawty let me holla at you a minute" that aint gonna work! If you see her and she goes into a store, follow her into the store and strike a conversation on whateva she is looking at, ie. if she goes into a dvd/cd type store then talk to her about whateva she is picking up. Try not to be stalkerish and creepy. Just be like, "that's not good what you have in ur hand" so you throw her off because you are not complimenting her, your challenging her and engaging her intellect. So now you started the convo, take it from there playa! To be cont....
Dr. Ace love has spoken.

It Just aint right!

2005-04-27T14:52:00.000-07:00

Hey Ace, I have a question. What do u find the most disappointing as a black person - The Micheal Jackson thing, The Nelly Credit Card thing, THe Janet JAckson thing, Soulplane, or The DAve Chappelle DVD being pushed back to MAy. Just wondering your opinion

In my humble opinion, its kinda up in the air between Chappelle and Micheal. The Micheal thing I understand, cuz he got problems, we all know he got problems, and no sane non-money hungry person would let they kid stay with Micheal. Now pushing back the Chappelle DVD is just mean and horrible. It just aint right!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

low carb diets

2005-03-25T17:38:00.000-08:00

I guess I am sorta on a low carb diet and I gotta admit it is going very good. I dont eat bread and bread products, rice, grains, starches like potatos and corn. The only thing I am allowed are low carb wraps. Yo and I gotta admit, I feel soooo much better, I have more strength and I am getting leaner all the time!
I recommend it but you gotta be serious, no half-stepping!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Words of Wisdom

2005-03-15T15:45:00.000-08:00

I was talking to my grandfather and he pointed out some interesting things. He says that some of those European cars over there gets 50 miles easily from a full tank of gas. Bush over here doesnt want anything like that, he needs us to buy this high-ass priced gas so we can pay for his war. He said that the car makers over here dont wanna make anything like that. "Are you telling me they can go to outerspace but could not figure out a way to possibly make a carborator that can get more than 30 miles a tank". Gotta love ol' folks for pointing out the obvious craziness that is occuring in America!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken.

Tip Drill

2005-03-14T16:30:00.000-08:00

BigSam said...
Hey Ace, What's really good. I have a question for you. Today I had a friend ask me what a "TipDrill" is. I was unable to put it into words so i figured I'd ask Ace Love the question so: What is a TipDrill ?
7:23 PM

A Tip Drill is a chick that whether or not her face looks good, she got a nice body and it dont matter if she aint got no teeth and cant talk right, and has no personality cuz you aint in it to get to know her, you only trying to do one thing... And with a body like hers, looks is optional!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Waiting Room Drama

2005-03-14T16:23:00.000-08:00

Anonymous said...
When you are goin out on a date with a girl, and you tell her to be ready at 8PM...why is it that she waits until 8PM to start getting ready?
12:31 PM

See, I dont know, I guess I am the wrong girl to ask cuz do to living with my dad, i like to be on time if not early and I prefer early more. My brother however is late no matter what, we had to take different cars to my parents baptism cuz he was messing around. I dont know why some females are like that, but not all are. So if u cant deal, get a chick like me, that looks high maintenance and is nice lookin on your arm but doesnt take forever to achieve that high maintenance look.
Dr. Ace Love has spoken

"Mr. Telephone man, Is there something wrong with the line"

2005-03-14T16:18:00.000-08:00

BigSam said...
Hey Doc,I have a quick question. When u get a girl's number how long should u wait before you call her. I've heard call the next day and I've heard to wait a few days and then call. What is your opinion on this matter? Holla at ya folks

I say call the next day or the day after that, waiting any longer annoys the hell out of girls. So hmmm....yeah two days is best, cuz u aint beat for nobody if you are dont let her know that. So call and try to keep it simple dont try to be too funny, keep it short and see if you can meet somewhere public and fun and hang out, charm her in person rather than over the phone!
Dr Ace Love has spoken!

50 cent and The Game

2005-03-14T16:12:00.000-08:00

Yo, I'm highly perturbed with 50 cent at this time. Yo Jadakiss is right, cuz he aint get shot this time he had to do something to make a hype about his album. So he pulled The Game into his publicity crap, and staged a shoot out and beef between them, just to get his album to sell. Then has the audacity to stage a press conference with a statement he cant read(50 cent apparently cant read, 'case ya'll missed that) on the anniversary of Biggie death. That Nigga! He got some nerve and I am mad I bought his album cuz its beat, he need to just sit there and make money of his rappers like the game cuz he is like Jadakiss said, the weakest rapper out of his group! Its gonna take a hell of alot for me to be in 50 cent corner!
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Sorry Sorry Sorry

2005-03-05T17:42:00.000-08:00

Yo, I've been busy. Studying, working out, and then doing ovetime averaging at least 100 hours every two weeks so I aint got time like that for my blog. But I will be posting back in the next work or so. So dont flip out. I'll be there!

Sick, deal with it

2005-02-18T17:49:00.000-08:00

I've been sick and tired and tired and sick the past couple days. My stomach has been beating me like a red-headed stepchild. I have had to eat applesauce while all my coworkers get cheesesteaks and wings. So this is the diary of a mad black woman, so I will respond to comments when I am not so bitter though on a brighter note I have lost 5lbs due to the sickness.

Valentine's Day Quote

2005-02-11T12:18:00.000-08:00

A Quote to warm the heart:

"I know there is a God and that he loves me so much, because he took time out of his busy schedule to make you for me!"

2005-02-10T17:42:00.000-08:00

Hmmph...nobody has asked for advice for awhile. So I guess I will just part wisdom upon the masses. As said by my boy Lyfe:

"I done had money,

I done been broke,

I done been talked about something awful,

Done been lied on by so many folks,

I done even been depressed at times,

and didn't wanna cry cause my pride was too strong,

But over the years I thought it over,

and after struggling for so long and still holding on,

I figured, cant be nothing all the wrong with crying,

If anybody says that they're that strong they're lying,

See crying is like taking your soul to the laundromat!"

Bouncing off the wall cont.

2005-02-08T11:47:00.000-08:00

Anonymous said...
It's Patrice again...Ok Dr. Ace Love, I feel you on that... But I really like this guy, like I said he's the PROTOTYPE! At the same time I don't want to seem pressed. Should I call him or wait for him to call me?

If you think this guy can be it, then by all means claim your man just guard your heart throughout the beginning and have fun. Call the boy, I say if you see what you want go for it, so go for it dont pussyfoot around. Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

DVD's of Love

2005-02-07T20:25:00.000-08:00

dat.damn.Josie said...
I see, but shouldn't I get him something in the spirit of valentine's day and all that good stuff. I'm feeling the DVD box set.

Like I said stick a sapy card to the front of it. Guys are always hard to shop for but whateva you get make sure its something he can use and not just have out for the Holiday.

Bouncing of the wall

2005-02-07T20:21:00.000-08:00

Should I be the "rebound girl" for a guy who's in love with his ex, or should I give him space to get over this girl and possibly miss my chance to fill that void in his life? --Thanx Dr. Ace Love, Patrice...

Dont be the rebound girl ever. Is going to move back to Fla. if not then that relationship is basically over unless she is moving up to DC. So start posing things like that, asking him questions and seeing if he realizes its time to break up with his girl. Then chill let him nail a couple chicks here and there to get it out of his system that he is free then holla at him. Him sorta trying to holla at you is kinda shady but he needs to figure his place out first. Once he does that and becomes comfortable in being in a relationship again then check him out, going in now is setting yourself up to be hurt.

Loyalty

2005-02-07T20:17:00.000-08:00

Anonymous said...
My friend cheats on his girl. I know both of them, who should I be loyal too? I've known him longer though.

The loyalty always goes to who you have known longer. But if he is getting wit some skanky girls then you need to tell her because i'm sure she wouldnt want to get caught up with an std. So yeah tell her but find a way to not be responsible like set it up so he gets caught by her or something along those lines, you dont wanna be caught up in the fallout. With all these STDs running around I think that you should let her know.

V-day jitters

2005-02-07T13:29:00.000-08:00

dat.damn.Josie said...
i have a question for u...what do i get my jumpoff for v-day?

Well first things first, a real jumpoff means that you shouldnt be getting anything for a jumpoff, if you think you need to get eachother something then that person is no longer just a jumpoff so check that first. But to answer your question, a guy is hard to shop for on this holiday because well, chicks are the ones that want the flowers, cards, candy and so on. So i suggest a card with dvd box set one of the cheaper ones will do, ya dont have to get those 89.99 dollar ones. But either way check to make sure he is getting you something because you dont want to get him sumtin and he dont get you nuttin. Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

Dont be mad

2005-02-06T17:46:00.000-08:00

Okay, so yes some of my advice is racy and many do not agree, and that's cool, but understand I gotta be fair, not necessarily taking sides but rather coming from thier perspective. So if a klansmember was to ask for advice, I would put myself in thier white sheet and come up with advice for them. So this is a column for anyone and everyone, and anything goes, ask anything and know that I will answer and keep it real, just think of me as a younger cuter more professional Wendy Williams. I'm gonna keep it real regardless!

Did anyone see that red carpet thing with Wendy, yo my favorite was her asking everyone were they boning thier date, and yelling at Usher and "Usher's mom" so she can talk to them about that baby with the groupie thing. Dang, I was laughing so hard I was rolling on the floor crying. That girl is crazy.

Many shades of black

2005-02-05T18:53:00.000-08:00

Anonymous said...
ha, im in the middle of the spectrum and enjoy the best of both worlds. im dark enough to be considered black, and light enough to get the white girls. life is great. oh, plus i have that good hair.

This is a response to a previous post on the many shades of black, brother please refer to my comments on black men and who they should date! Good hair dont mean nuttin, anyone can get that out the bottle!

letting a girl down

2005-02-05T18:44:00.000-08:00

Anonymous said...
here goes a question dr 'love.' how do u let a girl down easily if u arent interested in a relationship but want to keep the 'friends with benefits' status. valentines day is approaching and im 'talking' to a couple of girls. we have fun, but thats as far as im willing to take it. as it stands now i will have 3 girls that expect a valentines date, and 1 or 2 more that expect at least a card. this is too much man.

Okay Mr. Anonymous, this is easy, you dont actually have to let her down, ya just gotta know how to lie to her as well as the other girls. Give them all cards, then tell them that you want to take your mother out on a valentine's day dinner because you know your dad wont and you wanna show her you care. So you just earned points with the girl, If you want you can just chill or you can pick one of your favorites to take out on the actual day then just set up some day afterwards to go out with the others, its all about time management playa! Now if you really wanna try to downgrade the relationship without losing what is going on between ya'll just dance around if she starts hinting at something more, most girls are dumb and will just assume that ya'll are sumtin more without asking. If she does ask just say that you feeling her but you want time to see where it goes. That should pacify her enough so you just keep her on the hook and she thinks there is something more, but do realize that if you actually say something, its a wrap, the average girl wont go for friends with benefits, so my advice is just keep her dangling on the hook she wont even realize and when she does drop her and move onto one of your other "friends" .
Dr. Ace Love has spoken!

"Trill"

2005-02-04T17:35:00.000-08:00

-"I'm 3 times as real, I'm TRILL!" -Trillville

So apparently nobody wants to ask for advice. So I will share some about a friend of mine, no matter what if the condom breaks and you are not on birth control get the morning after pill! Even if you think there are no lil spermy in there, there is you just cant see it! Otherwise you'll be "Caught up, sooo-o caught up!"

Issues

2005-02-02T16:00:00.000-08:00

So I seem to have commitment issues. I cant commit to this posting thing, its hard to constantly do this everyday. The only things that I can truly be committed to is watching tv, going to the bathroom, and sleeping. Mind you that I did not say work in there, cuz I gotta admit I have never been committed to working. I have had over 10 jobs in 6 years. This is very bad seeing that there are 3 jobs in there that I had for a year or more. Okay so I need people to start posting thier comments so I can give advice. Its hard to give advice when I am not being asked for advice.

Light Skin drama:
So as there was a fire drill at my job. I exited the proper exit and stood outside by myself and across the way I saw some coworkers and cuz they black they were loud and I could here them. They were wondering who I was because I had my hoodie on and from far away they couldnt tell. My one coworker walked up to me cuz she nosy and if I was a new staff she wanted to talk to me. When she got to me she said, "Girl... we over there wondering who you was, I came over here to see who this white girl is and it turns out its you." Okay I'm light but damn not that light that I look white from far away, I guess with a dark hoodie on. Damn! I'm going to a tanning salon. That's it I want my tan all year round.

This goes out to the dark skinned people, what skinned issues do ya'll be having?

For those dating a psycho man

2005-01-26T14:10:00.000-08:00

This post is dedicated to one of my unofficial clients. Her man who happens to be latino (she's black) has set up a system of having his boys across the tri-state area that when they see her to immedietly call him and let him know who she came with, who she is talking to, and who she left with. It got to the point that at one party his boys followed her home to make sure she did not go anywhere but straight home.

My advice: In my previous post I told black women it was okay to date outside our race due to the slim pickings. Yet ya'll need to understand that other races are crazy in different ways. Speaking from the fact that I have had latino boyfriends, I know they will treat you like a queen but they are controlling not as bad as an African/Carribean man but close enough. But in any relationship people can be molded to fit better to you. So....try and see if the person is willing to work on thier psychoticness if not walk way, you dont wanna end up like a lifetime movie do you?

Its been a minute

2005-01-24T17:04:00.000-08:00

Its been awhile since I last posted, so I'm sorry to say this will be a advice cop-out. For those who hate the eagles for winning all i gotta say is

"SUPPORT BLACK!''

Driving in Bad Weather

2005-01-20T17:51:00.000-08:00

Alright with the pending bad weather people need to realize you cant still go 65+ miles per hour. When you do that those pesky trees or telephone poles tend to get in your way, then you cause a backup and then everyone has to wait and that's beat. So drive slowly. As someone that lives on one of those treacherous backroads that tend to take out more people in bad weather than drugs, guns, and President Bush combined. Oh yeah 42 million for what I saw today. He probably pimped out the caddy limo-thats where most of the money went. Hey Bush take that money next time and put it in Social security... I have spoken!

Answer For Black Men looking for a good woman

2005-01-19T17:16:00.000-08:00

Vikkay: need any free advice
BigSam425: actually yeah, as one of the black men that u call "slim pickings" how come i can't find the right woman for me???
BigSam425: should i follow the advice u set forth for my sistas and cross the color line or should i do something else
Vikkay: hell nah, there are too many good black women
Vikkay: stop lookin for women that are in the nelly video
BigSam425: which nelly video, the one's in the tipdrill video or the ones in the flap your wings video
Vikkay: both
BigSam425: oh
There you go brother's there are too many good black women out there to choose from, just look! And let go of finding one of those video girls!

2005-01-19T12:59:00.000-08:00

Sexy doctor here to give advice!

First Post

2005-01-18T16:31:00.000-08:00

After being bugged by my good friend Josie, I finally signed up for one of these things, so I am here to share my thoughts and give free advice, u ask, I answer. With this first post I break the hymen of my blog.
My first bit of advice will go out to all the African American women out there that can not find a good black man. Well to be honest once you sift through gay guys, men with kids, dl brothers, men without jobs, without cars, without jobs and cars, men who think they are pimps, and men with no career ambition or general path in life; that really doesnt leave that many. So though i have been called a racist I gotta say girls date the white men, its okay just be careful as of late white men have been killing thier wives/girlfriends.
More advice to come from Dr. Ace Love- the love doctor!